Q: What are the biggest
advantages of teaching domestic violence prevention in an academic environment?
Disadvantages?
A: Our DVPS program works hard
to minimize the supposed academic/advocate divide. It would be impossible to train future
professionals in the field based solely an academic research or solely on
advocacy practices. Within this
academic environment, we focus extensively on collaboration among academics and
community partners. We all learn from one another about the ways to revise our
scholarship, our curriculum, and our advocacy.
Another advantage of
teaching and structuring this program in an academic context is that it enables
me to develop close working relationships with my students that would not
necessarily evolve in a traditional classroom setting. This is primarily because of the prevalence
of trauma in class content, in field experiences, and in daily life. The program provides me with the opportunity
to work closely with students over a long period of time. With one another, we process experiences in
the field and we discuss ways that we can transition these experiences and the energizing
elements of course work into a customized career path. Teaching and mentoring in a program about
domestic violence lends itself to compassionate listening and customized
supports. The students graduate with a personalized journey through a large
state university, which results in deep and long term relationships with our
students.
Q: How can students support
peers who are victims of domestic violence?
A: The reality is that
students may not know that their peer has experienced sexual or domestic
violence, or that they are in the midst of an abusive relationship. This is why it is critically important to
cultivate a trauma-informed culture at the University of Delaware. The jokes we make, the judgments we
pronounce, the media that we consume, the themes of parties that we host, the
costumes that we wear, can lead to feelings of self blame, inadequacy, and
paralysis within a victim. Seemingly
meaningless social banter contributes to a survivor’s ability to share their
experience. Feeling safe enough to share
stories of abuse is a crucial step to connect students to the resources that
they need and to managing the outcomes of trauma in their lives.
However, students are well
positioned to identify habits of unhealthy relationships and intervene. The OneLove foundation is an example of a
partner organization that does a great job of teaching young adults about
healthy and unhealthy relationship practices.
They offer self-assessment quizzes that are useful for thinking about if
displays of intensity, jealousy, manipulation, isolation, sabotage, belittling,
guilt, volatility, deflecting of responsibility, and betrayal are evident in
relationships.
When students experience or
observe unhealthy patterns within a relationship it is important to stop
dismissing them as a private matter and/or from minimizing their role in a
larger pattern of abuse. Students should
take some time to prepare for a conversation with a friend who is experiencing
relationship violence by: identifying the campus-based resources; thinking
about familial, faculty, or faith based connections that might provide additional
forms of support; framing the encounter as a conversation, not a confrontation;
listening actively and without interruption; delicately highlighting patterns
or behaviors that are of concern. Ending
an abusive relationship is often dangerous and it is important to keep the
lines of communication open and encourage the utilization of professional
advocacy services. To contact an SOS Victim Advocate, call the UD Helpline
24/7/365 at 302-831-1001 and press 1. The clinician will check to make sure that
the student is safe, then take a first name & phone number and have an
Advocate contact the student within 10 minutes.